The A to Z of weddings – An expert guide to help you plan a dream of a day

“A wedding dress is really The ultimate fantasy. Like haute couture, it should fit the wearer like a glove, making her dreams come true. But it also needs to be modern and forward-thing”

- Antonio Berardi

Part 5 of our guide to planning your A to Z of wedding continues….


dress – the most important thing for a woman is her dress and should choose a gown that reflects who she is – about self-expression. Choose a designer you can identify with so that your personal style comes through. Advice to all brides shopping for The Wedding dress, go shopping with a couple of people you really, really trust and not your entire entourage. * Caution, the weather is a factor when choosing your dress, so chose carefully to match the season.

do’s – explain whats important to you, do be flexible and do manage your expectation.

don’t – borrow money from the bank, don’t put your money on credit cards(unless you’re paying the balance in 30 days), don’t budget for fewer guests than you invited, better to over than under-estimate, don’t be tempted to upgrade (first ask how much?), don’t overspend in certain area of your budget breakdown ( see budget breakdown in previous blog letter b) unless you can cut back that amount in other areas, don’t make decisions too quick( there are often many less expensive and better options than the first thing you saw), don’t be afraid to speak up, if you’re not happy with a service or tasting or style insist on better,  don’t sweat the small stuff – have FUN, don’t get so wrapped up in planning you both neglect each other, don’t aim for perfection, what’s perfect today might not be ideal tomorrow, don’t forget the legalities ie registrar’s certificate, birth certificate, decree absolute etc, don’t feel you have to conform to expectation – be exceptional it’s your wedding!

date – choosing a date for your wedding can be stressful as so many issues need to be factored in, taking into account all the key players, parents, close friends etc, holiday season, bank holidays, football season, is someone close to you getting married, annual celebration etc. Double check proposed date with your family asap before booking anything!

designer wedding show – the shortcut to wedding planning at Battersea park, London (Feb & Oct) with exhibits from fashion to flowers and cakes to photographers etc. A must for brides & grooms for inspiration!

dessert – serve your wedding cake as dessert or have a dessert bar etc.

dress code (guest) – if how your guests are dressed is important to you both, perhaps suggest a dress code in the invitation examples – black tie, fancy dress, jeans only etc.

details – an imaginative planning & attention to details makes your wedding unique and personal.

diy – if you’re on a budget or a creative bride or groom, you can create everything from invitation to the tablecentre!

dance – perfect expression for the infectious mood of a perfect wedding. Select a musical repertoire that would have your guest dancing the night away and soon not be forgotten. Vast selection of specialty live entertainment, big-band, stylish dance bands, versatile cocktail combos, jazz etc. Enjoy!

decor –  sets the mood and tone of your wedding, flowers, props, colours etc use decor pieces in unexpected ways. The repetition technique is a good tool to bring all your concept together.

designate – a wedding is undoubtedly one of the most stressful planning experience, learn to delegate tasks to your bridesmaids, bestman & your parents, they are there to help. Don’t try to do it all!

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About The Author

Bisi ira Bordley is the planner & founder of Love, iara sanyang. After an early career in product, interior design & window dressing, Bisi apprenticed herself to Jane Packer (London) to learn floral styling. Elements of these influences are evident in her designs. Later melding her affinity for entertaining and design with her knowledge of horticulture to create a thriving design business Love, iara sanyang. Love, iara Sanyang bespoke is a Bournemouth based Wedding/floral design company that provides stylish creative services for special events from wedding planning, floral installation, intimate dinner to grand scale occasion. Our signature style is the ability to find our clients signature for their events. Love, iara sanyang is known and recognised for their ever-observant eye and attention to details. Their dual strengths in organisation and creativity keeps Love, iara sanyang events personal and unforgettable. From Charity Benefits, corporate parties to intimate weddings, they continue to successfully coordinate, design and produce a wide array of private, collaborations and floral installations. Bisi ira Bordley Wedding planner/floral stylist

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