In the September issue of Essence magazine, writer Marshall Lewis said that men, even committed married have difficulty drawing the line between “harmless flirting and adultery”.
One thing that I thought was interesting is as much as flirting can be fun; can it ever really be harmless? Marshall Lewis, a self-proclaimed “flirtatious man”, had to limit his social circle once he got married because of his tendency to befriend women. Marshall Lewis voluntarily adjusted his behaviour and wishes that he had the opportunity to discuss this but according to him men do not talk about such things.
I once listened to a sermon from an American pastor and he said, “So many marriages end up in divorce because both parties still act as if they’re single.” Does this relate to flirting as well? Flirting is something that you’re freely able to do when you’re single but when you’re in a relationship is it still ok? Lewis obviously doesn’t think so, he went to the extreme of completely limiting his social circle. You always hear of many affairs starting with “harmless flirting”, which brings me back to my point of whether flirting ever really is harmless.
So what do you think? Would you prefer your partner to limit their social circle or are you fine with a bit of flirting? Are men just really clueless like Marshall suggests? Share your thoughts!by