How often do we get to have a foolproof way to doing something social? Dating has never been simple and flirting is a whole other ball game entirely. There are so many things involved when trying to send out flirting signals and you ask yourself, “Am I staring too much and looking like a creep?”, “Should I cross my legs at the ankle or knee?”, “Should I lean in closer?” and many more.
Well, scientific researchers are providing us with tips on how to flirt by sharing methods and signals that actually work – and they are backed up with data too. According to research it pays more to flirt than to look good because signaling availability and interest trumps attractiveness. So get your notes and pens ready as we point out 8 tips we have gotten from scientific research on flirting:
2. Eye contact is not only a signal – it can actually make someone more attracted to you.
3. There are types of touching that are regarded as “merely friendly”, in the zone of “plausible deniability”, or “going nuclear. A friendly touch can be a shoulder push, shoulder tap, handshake. A plausible deniability touch is around the shoulder or waist, touch on the forearm. A nuclear is any face touch.
4. Touching that is gentle and informal, and that occurs face-to-face or involves “hugging” behavior, appears to convey the most relational intent.
5. The more formal the setting, the more obvious you need to be to get the signal across.
6. Ladies, after you’ve caught his attention with flirting, keep in mind that studies confirm that “playing hard to get” works
7. Research has shown that flirting which emphasizes physical attractiveness has little effect when males do it. The flirting that is most effective for men involves displays of social dominance.
8. Research shows that women are more successful in their flirting when they’re more direct.
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