ON’T! I was thinking about this yesterday and it occured to me that I don’t think people who desperately want to get married should. Think about it… Remember when you rushed to do anything? Remember how it felt afterwards? How it wasn’t such a big deal, how you felt a bit of disappointment cos whatever it was you rushed into didn’t turn out to be all that. When people rush to do things, they’re not usually ready for it or in the right frame of mind. I think it’s the same with marriage.
If you’re feeling the pressure, you think there’s nothing really left for you to do other than get married, you think the clock (especially the biological one) is ticking, think again. I almost think people should fight the temptation to rush into marriage. They say good things come to those who wait and that includes marriage too! You know the sweetest things come when you least expect it. You know, you’re minding your own business, doing you, taking things easy, and then he/she shows up (or they’ve been there all along and they wake up! LOL). Either way, you weren’t really looking, you’re not desperate so you can make a clear decision. Being in a hurry is probably one of the main reasons why people settle for less than best and later they remark “he wasn’t really my type” or “he became attractive in my eyes later in marriage”…while these can genuinely be the case, what were they doing not marrying their type in the first place. Lol. I think sometimes when people rush into things, they settle…
So, if you’re feeling pressured, and you desperately want to get married….DON’T! DON’T DO IT! Wait, talk yourself out of it. It will happen evetually but you gotta be in the right frame of mind.
What do you think? Can pressure make people rush into marriages they have no business in?
i agree with you o!!! You dont think straight when you are pressured so there is a tendency to make a wrong decision
So are you saying that i have to wait for the pressure to go down before i get a man??? Geezzz i am clocking 40, dont think the pressure will ever go down .
The pressure will always be there at every stage. When you get married, the pressure will be there to have babies. We shouldn’t do things because of pressure. I’m saying live your life. Take your time. Don’t rush cos you will settle. All the best!
Me too. I am pressured even though I don’t look desperate…I read somewhere that autism is more certain in the children of older women and I want to bear normal ones. All these and more can put undue pressure on you and I do not want to have a child out of wedlock.