Guys aren’t really used to girls flirting with them and so this makes for a whole lot of misunderstanding. There is a thin line between a man seeing your advances as flirting and him thinking you’re N1, 000 per night (you know what I mean). This does not mean you can’t go over to that cute guy across the room and start up a conversation, or flash him a flirty grin to make him come over. An overwhelming majority of men said they would just love it if a woman would talk to them first or at least express a larger clue that you were interested in checking them out.

So here are a few tips to help you hone your flirting techniques



1. Smile. To show you are interested, your smile is your greatest asset. Flash that fab smile to hold his attention from across a crowded room and he’d get the hint that you’re kinda into him.

2. Repeated contact…at least three separate verbal or non-verbal clues need to be given. Why? The first time he’s going to look around and make sure it’s really him you’re flirting with. The second, he knows it’s him and he gets flushed and pleased. (At this point he’ll probably walk by you to check you out a little more.) The third time you can express interest-by introducing yourself, or commenting on his shirt, or waving from across the room. Now he knows you are open to meeting and it will be a cinch.


3. Whisper…it always gets their attention. Ask them if you can tell them a secret…Then whisper in their ear: ‘I just love your tie…can I borrow it when you are done with it?’


4. Isolate Yourself; Don’t sit with other women…men don’t want you to reject them in front of an audience. If you do go out with a friend…separate every so often or take a breather from talking…men do not want to risk your disapproval by interrupting you. (You have probably already missed out on a lot of quality polite men who didn’t want to interrupt).


5. Use the buddy system; You can make good use of the friends you brought with you. Walk through a group of men and have them watch to see who’s checking you out. This way, you know who is interested before making your move.


6. Become more irresistible; Show a little leg….wear higher heels…the redder the lipstick the more available and noticeable you will be. Arch your back a little as you sit up tall and cross your legs high. Wear earrings that are interesting enough to make someone comment on them.


7. Flirt with your eyes: Give him a look all over from head to toe – nod with approval and then flash him your most winning smile.



8. Body language; so you’re sitting with him, having a drink and you want to let him know you’re interested, then initiate a little body contact. Touch his arm or leg gently, lean towards him, and maintain eye contact as often as you can.

9. Practice your technique. Sneak in a little flirting whenever you can, like with your hot waiter. You’ll be amazed how “practice flirting” boosts your confidence when you’re talking to a guy you really like.



10. Have fun; Remember that flirting is a way of connecting from the heart and acknowledging someone. Be generous, and keep your conversation light and fun, he would be vibe’ing right back in no time.

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