Unlike many 20-year-olds, American actress and singer Keke Palmer is on the verge of becoming the youngest talk show host in history. The new BET talk show host of the soon to be aired The Keke Project spoke with Madammenoire in a recent interview about staying grounded in the entertainment industry and most importantly her dating life:
What can you tell us about abstinence and the dating scene?
“Both men and women pressure each other for sex. We’re young, live your life and enjoy yourself. My thing is, people need to be with those who respect you. At the end of the day, whoever you spend your time with make sure they value you. If you feel over the course of time they are deserving of whatever it is you would like to give them, fine. My twitter rant [about sex] was for myself; I find myself dating guys who I do not talk to anymore because, I assume, we have not had sex. [Sex] is the number one topic in the conversation with these men and I’m like ‘uh no, I do not want to talk about that all the time!’ I do not know why there is so much pressure being built when you are dating someone. It’s like they have a ticking time clock on you. It is not about the time, it is about making sure this is the right person. I always use my Twitter as an outlet. It’s like my therapy. I feel like my talk show will allow me to do the same self-expression. People are going through these same burdens. My priority is not the sex. I refuse to succumb to my flesh. I will not offer myself up to someone who does not know my spirit.”
As a celebrity, how do men approach you?
“They don’t approach me. Sometimes they do but then they will back off because they think it is too much. I am very confident, independent, silly, goofy and sometimes, too nice. I think what happens is I speak my mind so much guys may think, ‘I don’t know about all of that!’ They psyche themselves out a lot of the times because of what I write on my Twitter. But it is really simple, in order to date me, be a gentleman. Be kind, take me out sometime and be sweet. But it seems like that is a lot to ask for these days. Sometimes it is hard to make a real connection. It takes a lot of time to find someone who you truly connect with because there can be people who you really vibe with, but there is no chemistry. You can find a great guy but he may not be a great guy for you!”
Keke is currently promoting sexual abstinence and she recently took to twitter to share her opinion on sex and how its best to find the right person:
“People make it impossible to make real connections because they are too focused on getting to the sex! I mean, how can you expect to get to level ten when you haven’t passed steps 1-9. We all have to be careful of the energy we let into our bodies. Why am I gonna have sex with you to find OUT if you can love me down the line? Shouldn’t you love me before we get there? Things happen, yes, but it’d be best to wait it out. Allow for a true connection to be made without physical intrusions.
I’m out here trying to make REAL connections. My flesh will never be able to compare to what is in the HEART. It’s really disappointing though. Cause you can like someone & be shut out simply because you won’t put out. #pushfoward I value myself too much to play myself to the left in such a way. We are too good for that y’all, we deserve more. As women, chemicals go off when you have sex w/ someone it causes a form of attachment; reproduction is want the body wants. So you may THINK you love someone because you had sex with them. But it could be HORMONES.
Do not let your body guide you. Listen to your heart. The man you could be in the bed with may look fine on the outside. But he could be the enemy himself. It’s not even about titles. It’s about respect & appreciation. Whoever gets to have you must VALUE YOU. If the person you’re dealing with does not realize you are worth the effort & the time.. THEY DO NOT DESERVE YOU.
I shouldn’t have to give you all of me for you to invest. You need to believe just as I do in you, then you’ll be rewarded.”
Keke has grown into a beautiful, successful and smart lady and one thing we can agree for sure, is that the Akeelah and the Bee actress will not be bed hopping till she meets the right man.
Do you agree with Keke Plamer’s beliefs?