Lupita-Nyong'o-Dark-Beauty-Growing-Up-Essence-Luncheon-FAB-Magazine-Acceptance-Speech (4)Dencia’s fast-selling Whitenicious cream has put Nigeria on the radar again. Kenyan actress Lupita Nyong’o took to the stage at the recently held Essence Magazine’s 7th Annual Women in Hollywood luncheon, where she won  Hollywood Breakthrough Performance Award, to speak on colourism, beauty and self-acceptance.

Lupita-Nyong'o-Dark-Beauty-Growing-Up-Essence-Luncheon-FAB-Magazine-Acceptance-Speech (3)In her speech Lupita revealed to the audience that when she was younger, she struggled with accepting her, ‘dark beauty.’ She opened her speech with a letter from a young girl, who was tempted to use Dencia’s skin bleaching cream; she decided against it after seeing pictures of Lupita in magazines and advertisements, and realizing that her dark skin tone wasn’t anything to be ashamed of.

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Lupita & Her Mother

Lupita & Her Mother

Lupita-Nyong'o-Dark-Beauty-Growing-Up-Essence-Luncheon-FAB-Magazine-Acceptance-Speech (1)Growing up, Lupita Nyong’o said she tried to bargain with God by vowing to stop eating sugar cubes and to never lose her school sweater again, if she could only see a change in her skin tone. It wasn’t until she discovered Sudanese British supermodel Alek Wek that she began to believe in her own beauty. She ended her speech underscoring the importance of appreciating inner beauty.

Read her full speech here:

I wrote down this speech that I had no time to practice so this will be the practicing session. Thank you Alfre, for such an amazing, amazing introduction and celebration of my work. And thank you very much for inviting me to be a part of such an extraordinary community. I am surrounded by people who have inspired me, women in particular whose presence on screen made me feel a little more seen and heard and understood. That it is ESSENCE that holds this event celebrating our professional gains of the year is significant, a beauty magazine that recognizes the beauty that we not just possess but also produce.

I want to take this opportunity to talk about beauty, Black beauty, dark beauty. I received a letter from a girl and I’d like to share just a small part of it with you: “Dear Lupita,” it reads, “I think you’re really lucky to be this Black but yet this successful in Hollywood overnight. I was just about to buy Dencia’s Whitenicious cream to lighten my skin when you appeared on the world map and saved me.”

My heart bled a little when I read those words, I could never have guessed that my first job out of school would be so powerful in and of itself and that it would propel me to be such an image of hope in the same way that the women of The Color Purple were to me. 

I remember a time when I too felt unbeautiful. I put on the TV and only saw pale skin, I got teased and taunted about my night-shaded skin. And my one prayer to God, the miracle worker, was that I would wake up lighter-skinned. The morning would come and I would be so excited about seeing my new skin that I would refuse to look down at myself until I was in front of a mirror because I wanted to see my fair face first. And every day I experienced the same disappointment of being just as dark as I was the day before. I tried to negotiate with God, I told him I would stop stealing sugar cubes at night if he gave me what I wanted, I would listen to my mother’s every word and never lose my school sweater again if he just made me a little lighter. But I guess God was unimpressed with my bargaining chips because He never listened. 

And when I was a teenager my self-hate grew worse, as you can imagine happens with adolescence. My mother reminded me often that she thought that I was beautiful but that was no conservation, she’s my mother, of course she’s supposed to think I am beautiful. And then…Alek Wek. A celebrated model, she was dark as night, she was on all of the runways and in every magazine and everyone was talking about how beautiful she was. Even Oprah called her beautiful and that made it a fact. I couldn’t believe that people were embracing a woman who looked so much like me, as beautiful. My complexion had always been an obstacle to overcome and all of a sudden Oprah was telling me it wasn’t. It was perplexing and I wanted to reject it because I had begun to enjoy the seduction of inadequacy. But a flower couldn’t help but bloom inside of me, when I saw Alek I inadvertently saw a reflection of myself that I could not deny. Now, I had a spring in my step because I felt more seen, more appreciated by the far away gatekeepers of beauty. But around me the preference for my skin prevailed, to the courters that I thought mattered I was still unbeautiful. And my mother again would say to me you can’t eat beauty, it doesn’t feed you and these words plagued and bothered me; I didn’t really understand them until finally I realized that beauty was not a thing that I could acquire or consume, it was something that I just had to be. 

And what my mother meant when she said you can’t eat beauty was that you can’t rely on how you look to sustain you. What is fundamentally beautiful is compassion for yourself and for those around you. That kind of beauty enflames the heart and enchants the soul. It is what got Patsey in so much trouble with her master, but it is also what has kept her story alive to this day. We remember the beauty of her spirit even after the beauty of her body has faded away. 

And so I hope that my presence on your screens and in the magazines may lead you, young girl, on a similar journey. That you will feel the validation of your external beauty but also get to the deeper business of being beautiful inside. 

There is no shame in Black beauty.

What are your thoughts? While we are glad that Lupita Nyong’o used this opportunity to address a growing need to question having black skin, we are sad that Nigerian-Cameroonian singer Dencia’s Whitenicious cream continues to get so much notice.

Lupita-Nyong'o-Dark-Beauty-Growing-Up-Essence-Luncheon-FAB-Magazine-Acceptance-Speech (2)Why are there so many people who feel a need to change their skin from black to light that they are willing to use products? Why do African artists fuel this need with their unnatural white creamy skin? It’s a saddening trend that we really hope is quelled soon.

Source: Essence Magazine

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2 Responses

  1. chike

    Go Lupita! We need more women to help youths embrace their skin colour

  2. Michelle Spice

    Dencia, I think you are jealous of Lupita! You look trashy like the white trash I see around the place.

    Congrats Lupita on your many life long achievements. You are dark and beautiful. You make me proud and I wish you all the best. Keep on being black, beautiful and talented…

    Great stuff Lupita keep rocking girl!…


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