So many women in today’s world tend to ‘settle’ just to fill in the gap. They really don’t believe in the old-fashioned be-friends-fall-in-love-get-married-happily-ever-after affair. By the time a woman hits 40 and is still single, she thinks less about her career, bigger apartment and finances. She thinks more of how fertile her eggs are going to be when she eventually meets “Mr. Right/Perfect”.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Maybe it is intimidation that scares some men away. But one thing that just occurred to me that could have helped Uduak is if she tried to build on a long term relationship with a guy overtime. So that both grow together and her spirit of success ensures that he also performs above average..

I got that comment last night from my write up on a single chic who seems to have everything but a man. Why do men get intimidated by the status of a woman? Should women lower their standards in the quest of settling or just say “eff that shit I’m having none of that if you can’t meet up to my kinda life”?

How many women today are ready to wanna know the guy, be friends before thinking of how he’s going to make a good husband? I know so many women who are advocate of just settling with a man to have children or emotional security. I’ll say that’s not healthy because overtime the man you are using to fix your trash will eventually find out its not genuine love and will leave! Duh!

When we’re holding out for deep romantic love, we have the fantasy that this level of passionate intensity will make us happier. But marrying Mr. Good Enough can never be an equally viable option, especially if you’re looking for a stable, reliable life companion.

What I long for in a marriage is that sense of having a partner in crime. Someone who knows my day-to-day trivia. Someone who both calls me on my bullshit and puts up with your quirks. He has to be the love of my life, someone I respect intellectually, makes me laugh, and appreciates me.

Truth is, lotta marriages today involve compromise, but where’s the cutoff? Where’s the line between compromising and settling, and at what age does that line seem to fade away?

Choosing to spend your life with a guy who doesn’t delight in the small things in life might be considered settling at 30, but not at 40. By 40, if you get a cold shiver down your spine at the thought of embracing a certain guy, but you enjoy his company more than anyone else’s, is that settling or making an adult compromise?

Do men also settle for Miss Good Enough/Good Looking?

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